I just want to write a little something about the current events that happened in Calgary last night, because I feel like I might explode and there are some things that I feel people should consider that many people will overlook.
What happened was beyond gruesome and terrifying. Five lives were ended. Five. People that my friends knew, that they grew up with, some of whom I have met. Watching the police wheel the bodies out of the house on the news and knowing that I had stood in front some of them at one point and happily said “nice to meet you”. There are no words to describe how horrible that is, and I can’t even begin to imagine how much worse it is for their family and friends. “I am so sorry for your loss” is not something you ever want to be saying to a friend. I have no idea how they are doing, but I hope they are getting through it as best as possible under the circumstances.
On another note, the fact that I knew the guy that supposedly did it all is terrifying. I went to school with him from kindergarten up until the end of high school, and for all those years he never seemed like he had an evil bone in his body. He was shy, but he had many friends, and everyone I know is just as shocked about his actions as I am. Before I continue, I do not believe in any way that his actions were excusable, nor do I believe that this should affect the way he is treated and charged. I think justice should be served accordingly, but this boy was clearly not in a good state of mind, and this should not be overlooked in the long run. Not because there should be any pity for him, but because, like many similar events in history, there was a chance this could have been prevented. You don’t go on a killing spree, especially not one involving people you allegedly knew, because of plain anger. People that have never directly experienced mental illness tend not to understand it, but it can be manageable or it can be hell, and when it goes unnoticed or untreated, there can be horrible consequences. There can’t be any blame placed on any one person for the lack of help that he might have needed, because we don’t know what his home life was like, whether or not his friends would have helped him or cast him aside, whether he knew he needed help but never sought it for himself. Overall, there was clearly a lack of mental health support in the boys life, and it lead to this.
I will always be an advocate for mental health, as it is an area that hits home for me. The loss of five lives is an unspeakable tragedy, however, we should also think about the events that led this boy to his horrible actions and how we might prevent something like this from ever happening again. I doubt very many people will actually read this, but I want you all to know that if you think you might be suffering from any kind if mental illness, big or small, or you know someone that is, that it is important to seek help, or even just talk to a friend about it. There are always resources available and people willing to talk to you and help you become well again and work through whatever you may be going through.
To all the lives taken from us, you will surely be missed. I am so sorry you were all taken so soon. Rest in peace.
Total lunar eclipse for the Americas on April 14th 15th 2014
"I sowed the seeds and watched them grow. Cultivated it. A long chain of events leading to this. All of this has been my design."
Just a casual reminder to all my fellow white girls who plan on wearing any Native or Indian style garments to music festivals this summer (including, but not limited to: Bindis or feather headdresses) that it is actually not cool to do that unless you are directly part of the religion or culture that would sport such accessories/garments. Pretend you’re a hippie or something for the weekend instead.
The adventure will be yours and mine today. // Do you intend to point a gun at me?
"Now to demonstrate your devotion to the Spice Girls, I understand that you have a gift, and I wanted to challenge you on this gift tonight… you are able to do what?" "Their autographs." [x]
streetstyle shots from MBFWA, (image: studded-hearts)